Remittance Girl

Remittance Girl is a writer of literary erotica, commonly known as smut.

The Fickle Hand of Fate

When I was young, someone read me the story of Little Black Sambo. I don’t remember who read it to me, and I know it’s frightfully politically incorrect to admit to having ever even heard of the story. But I did. I don’t remember much of it, except that the protagonist was extremely clever and…

Whose Kink? Definitions and Perspectives.

In conjunction with my project Portraits of Kink, I’ve been reading and listening a great deal to other people’s opinions of what kink is. I think we can pretty well all agree that kink is whatever is kink to you. However, of course, your kink is not always recognizable to another. And within some BDSM…

#lostinsaigon – April 5th

In the hard vacuum of your departure I measure moments in heartbeats caught in amber. #gogyohka #lostinsaigon time stretches like molten glass a fine, translucent infinity that trembles and breaks #gogyohka #lostinsaigon the smell of sweat the breach of breath the slick of lust died to a second skin in the silence of sleep #lostinsaigon…

Goodbye Darkness, My Old Friend

I read today that D is taking his blog, Sadistic Excess, down. I know things change and people move on, but somehow it feels like the end of an era. Clicking though his pages, I felt a sharp pang of incipient loss. I met D more than five years ago, through his blog and a…

Portraits of Kink – A site of its Own

UPDATE: APRIL 11, 2011 : WHERE HAVE ALL THE PORTRAITS GONE? They’ve moved to a lovely new site of their own. Please visit it at www.portraitsofkink.com ___________________________     A while back, I proposed a project and asked people who saw themselves as non-vanilla if they’d be willing to answer some questions about themselves in…

D/s sans Humiliation: A Response to a Comment.

I recently got a comment on an piece of erotic fiction I wrote which I really liked because it asked a question I didn’t have a ready answer for. The story was Pleasure’s Apprentice and the comment was from Amy: Amy on April 3, 2011 at 1:20 pm I’ve read this one several times […]…

Covering Up the Disempowerment of Men

I rarely get overtly political on this blog. I have another one for that. But this is a gender issue and goes to the very heart of gender identity and what it means to be a human. What triggered my ire was this exchange between Veena Malik, a Pakistani film star and comedienne, and a…

Portraits Update: Subs 7 – Doms 0

Just a little note to let you know this is still (sort of) happening. I got 24 acceptances to participate. Yay. I got about an even number of subs/bottoms/masochists to doms/tops/sadists. Yay So far, 7 of the subs/bottoms/masochists have sent me back their responses to my questions. Yay. So far, NONE of the doms/tops/sadists have…

Guest Blogging at Lisabet Sarai’s House

In the next month, Lisabet Sarai (editor of my short story anthology and erotica writer extraordinaire) is hosting a series of guest bloggers on her site Beyond Romance.  I’m gonna be there March 24! Below is a list of the names and dates of the guests. As you can see, it’s something of a who’s…

Characters in Erotica – Dominants, Submissives, Sadists and Masochists

I have often gone on rants about how poorly non-vanilla characters are portrayed in some erotic fiction. I’m pretty sure we’ve all run across the stereotypical impermeable stay-pressed Dominant, the bratty, navel gazing Submissive, the evil and unprincipled Sadist and the mentally ill and most probably sexually abused Masochist.  Or we are presented with sexual…