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The Erotica of Cruelty & Stories of the Body Without Organs

Recently, I’ve been reading a quite a lot of stuff by two French thinkers: Antonin Artaud and Gilles Deleuze. Admittedly, reading the French can be a chore (if you’re not French) not only because I get the feeling that often their translators had one hell of a time trying to translate the ideas and concepts…

Writer as Reader & the Art of Critiquing

I get a lot of people sending me stories and asking me to read them and give them feedback. This is something I used to do frequently when I was an active member on the ERWA storytime list. It’s been more than a year since I’ve really participated and, although I do miss the give…

Narrative Violence: Movie Review: Antichrist by Lars Von Trier

I was reading Tony Comstock‘s post “Do you want to be put in the same category as Alfred Kinsey, Max Hardcore, or Catherine Briellat?”: The limits of sexual expression in an algorithmic world.” in which he reported that, Matinee, a film that depicts actual sexual intercourse between actors was, essentially, refused entry at an Australian…

This Fragile Filament

This little string we have – this little line between you and me – it’s fragile. The internet is an amazing thing: for all the data available, and the fun and the wealth of knowledge that even ten years ago was out of most people’s reach. But for me, the most valuable thing about the…

Worth your Time

Every so often, you run across something quite beautiful. I was lucky enough to meet Karl James as @2plus2makes5 on twitter and take the time to look at his site. Karl is director of something called the Dialogue Project – a pretty amazing organisation. I won’t attempt to describe it. Better you go to the…

Desiring the Unobtainable

Well, I got halfway through writing a short story and realized, with the help of a friend, that it was mostly shit. This always depresses me. Especially 4,000 words in. However…it was crap. So I’m going to have to suck it up. In the meantime, I’ve noticed recently that I’ve been running into a lot…

Feminism, Sex Work and The Big Wide World

I once had a commenter accuse me of being a sex tourist because I wrote about the sex workers in Bangkok. Because I didn’t condemn it, or belittle them, or rail about the men who used their services. Now, Elly writes about a movement of ‘feminists’ in the UK who spend their fundraised money fighting…

The Vibrator Controversy

I rarely weigh in on these sorts of discussions because, for the most part, I think people should do what they want to do and what feels good. However, after Sylvanus posted his blog on his dislike of Hitachi wands, I noticed some of the responses were really quite defensive. In fact, some were fairly…

The Uncomfortable Truth about Kink

I have to thank @quietriot_girl for prompting this post. We had a short exchange on twitter about it. She has some very insightful takes on things. Please visit her site. Photo: miss_blackbutterfly I once knew a man with a deeply rooted shoe fetish. He didn’t just like shoes, or think they were sexy on a…

The Woman that is not Woman; The Sex that is not Sex

Caroline Nevin, an artist, (@RubiesAreBlue) tweeted up this Italian documentary: Il Corpo Delle Donne (The Bodies of Women). This project took off as a matter of urgency. It all started with the observation that women–real women–are an endangered species on television, one that is being replaced by a grotesque, vulgar and humiliating representation. We sensed…