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UnKindled & Paypalless: Ethics and the Bottom Line

I’ve been thinking hard about this topic for about 24 hours. I didn’t get a lot of sleep last night. I realized that my decision is going to affect more than just me, but, to paraphrase Edmund Burke, evil triumphs when good men do nothing. I have decided to take all Amazon links to my…

The Things that Grow in a Vacuum

I have recently had a friendship come apart. It died from neglect and I admit complicity in its demise. I get too focused on things. I don’t water the flowers as much as I should. I tend to assume that, once I have had a meeting of minds with someone and a level of affection…

I Sing to the Body Electric – Persona in Motion

It is 7:30 am. I wake up, make my way downstairs and lean sleepily against the counter as I wait for my coffee. Then, sitting down to my laptop, I open it. Sweetly, accommodatingly, it connects to the web; I open up Twitter and say my good mornings. I am become Remittance Girl. Of course,…

I have no advice to give

Every so often, I get a spate of DMs and emails asking for my opinion or advice on matters sexual. This post is mostly so I don’t have to keep repeating myself. It feels rotten to just turn people away, but I do. I’m just a writer. I just write about people and sex. That…

Revisiting Umberto Eco’s ‘The Future of the Book’

Sixteen years after it was presented at a symposium, Umberto Eco’s paper ‘The Future of the Book’ would seem to be ridiculously out of date and yet, surprisingly, it challenged assumptions and brought up questions that are just as relevant – sometimes more – today as they were then. The text of this paper is…

Rough Justice & the Internet

First, I want to warn readers and commenters on my last Alexa post that I have gone through my post and the comments left and redacted the name of the person who has been accused of pretending to be Alexa. If it offends you that I have redacted his name on your comment and you…

The Execution of a Virtual Call Girl

I’ve been giving a lot of thought to the ‘outing’ of the net and twitter persona known as Alexa di Carlo. For those of you who don’t follow twitter, and have never heard of the Real Princess Diaries, Alexa was a person claiming to be a high-class callgirl. She tweeted and blogged about being one,…

Mining Emotions

I’ve been watching the coverage of the Chilean miners being rescued and it’s made me ponder something. I don’t think I’m the only person who has felt torn while watching this. I’m very glad to know they are being rescued. I’m glad that in 2010, 33 men’s lives matter enough to bring together the funding,…

So You Want to Write Erotica

I’ve received a lot of emails asking me about becoming an erotica writer and so I decided to post a specific email and show my response, mostly so I can just refer people to this page instead of repeating myself. The email below is paraphrased Hello, I’m an aspiring erotica writer. I’d like to know…