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The Sublime Angst of the Condom Aisle

Most of you are probably too young to know this, but there was a time when, if you wanted to buy condoms, you had to go to the pharmacy counter and ask for them. A stern man or woman wearing the white, side-buttoned jacket of pharmaceutical authority would assess whether you were in fact worthy…

It Was A Pleasure To Burn – The Tattoo

I’ve always wanted a tattoo. I like the idea of marked flesh – but not casually or without thought, I know many people who see a design they like and go for it. Through the years, I’ve pondered on what, if anything, I’d consider having indelibly marked on my flesh. I’ve never wanted anything terribly…

Pretty Vaginas

This is one of those rant posts, prompted by this: I wish I had a pretty vagina. — Girrl Genius (@GirrlGenius) April 24, 2013 One assumes, therefore, that this woman thinks she has an ugly vagina.  What, you might very well ask, constitutes a ‘pretty’ or an ‘ugly’ vagina? Although I often say I don’t…

A Writer’s Obligations

I’ve had a marvelous and vibrant discussion on Twitter with a whole raft of writers on what it means to be a writer, and what a writer’s obligation is.  I think there are some things that all of us, who care about what we write agree on. However, this is my list of a writer’s…

Villains in Leather: Negative Portrayals of Kink in Fiction

It has been a few weeks of strenuous debate on the net about kink and how it’s portrayed in the media. Meghan Murphy (Rabble.ca) and William Saletan (Slate), who both have a large mainstream reading audience, wrote posts exhibiting a basic lack of understanding about kink and BDSM. They each, in their way, made exaggerated…

“What’s With The Needles?”: The Origin of Desire & The Fall

I got an email today. All it said is: “What’s with the needles?” Yup, that’s all. With a fake return address.  And since I take questions seriously, because they afford me some opportunity for reflection, I’m going answer it publicly. I gather it was actually an expression of disgust at story I recently posted called…

Entry Points: Ways into a Story

“A story has no beginning or end; arbitrarily one chooses that moment of experience from which to look back or from which to look ahead.” The End of the Affair, by Graham Greene I’ve been thinking a lot recently about linearity and the different points of entry into a story. We experience time in a…

Domination vs Oppression – the explicit version

I invited a number of Doms to write a post for my Order of Turbulence blog on why women’s reproductive rights mattered to them. One of the people I invited was @pissgums . He was kind enough to write a nice staid version of his stance here, on the political blog, and then he sent…

My Response: A Writer’s View

After attempting to edit an anthology myself and failing miserably, I have a deep appreciation and respect for anthology editors and the work they do to compile a cohesive yet varied collection of stories that will be salable and, to one extent or another, feature something to everyone’s taste. They often have to cull through…

Dominion

This is my body, there are many like it, but this one is mine. First, let me say that by current reigning definitions of ‘feminism’, I’m not one. Mostly because, for fear of getting stuck in history, feminist theory often demands that its adherents pretend that it didn’t happen.  That, somehow, we should all stop…