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Fifty Shades of Grey: A Film Review

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Fifty Shades of Grey is the first mainstream film based on an ‘erotic novel’ in quite a while; the last one I can recall was Secretary, loosely based on a short story with the same title by Mary Gaitskill, but I could be wrong. There have been numerous recent art-house films considered to be erotic,…

I Am Charlie, Uncomfortably: The Price of Free Discourse

Offensive? Yes, of course it is. Your choice is to ignore it, dismiss it, or execute the cartoonist?

“To hold a pen is to be at war.”  Voltaire In the wake of the murder of 12 people at the Charlie Hebdo Magazine offices, there has been shock, mourning and much passionate debate. It is sad that it takes the assassination of a group of French satirical cartoonists to prompt a serious discussion of…

Ask Better Questions

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Kristina Lloyd, whose novel Undone has just been published (and is phenomenally well-written – buy it), has been doing the blog tour thing. Today, Anna Sky hosted an interesting post by Kristina: “Do Women Prefer Erotica?” Whether you’re a reader or a writer of erotica, it’s worth your while to read it. At the end,…

Labels, Tribes and the Beauty of Singularities.

I cannot write you. I try and fail. I try, I fail and I’m a butcher. Me I’ve had some ongoing conversations, and I’ve offended some people recently, because I’ve refused the label ‘bisexual’. I want to take the opportunity to explain why and to acknowledge that for some people these words matter greatly, and…

On Transgression: A discussion with Harper Eliot and Molly Moore

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I recently participated in a delightful and meaty conversation on the topic of transgression – with a focus on erotic transgression and fictional depictions of it –  with Harper Eliot and Molly Moore, who produce the bi-monthly IGRD (It Girl Rag Doll) podcast. You can listen to the podcast on the web here or listen…

Lifeboats: The Myth of the Safety of Sameness

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I just finished reading and commenting on The Good Men Project article Who Is In Your Rowboat? by Dale Thomas Vaughn. He’s reportedly vaunted as “a man of quality and one of the leaders of men of quality” by best-selling author and top feminist attorney Gloria Allred” which only reminds me why I have such…

Abstraction: Desire and Disgust

Jacques Lacan once famously said ‘the Woman does not exist.” Like so many French theorists, it’s a confrontational statement designed to draw a response. It’s important to really read it with care and to know, above all, who is speaking it. Lacan was male. But it’s a fun place to start an argument – there…