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On Transgression: A discussion with Harper Eliot and Molly Moore

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I recently participated in a delightful and meaty conversation on the topic of transgression – with a focus on erotic transgression and fictional depictions of it –  with Harper Eliot and Molly Moore, who produce the bi-monthly IGRD (It Girl Rag Doll) podcast. You can listen to the podcast on the web here or listen…

Lifeboats: The Myth of the Safety of Sameness

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I just finished reading and commenting on The Good Men Project article Who Is In Your Rowboat? by Dale Thomas Vaughn. He’s reportedly vaunted as “a man of quality and one of the leaders of men of quality” by best-selling author and top feminist attorney Gloria Allred” which only reminds me why I have such…

Abstraction: Desire and Disgust

Jacques Lacan once famously said ‘the Woman does not exist.” Like so many French theorists, it’s a confrontational statement designed to draw a response. It’s important to really read it with care and to know, above all, who is speaking it. Lacan was male. But it’s a fun place to start an argument – there…

Gender and Sexual Orientation: Authoritarian Desires to Label

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I recently got caught up in a discussion on twitter with the charming Louise Sorensen over this article: “What Science Knows About Homosexuality.” As much as I applaud any survey of scientific research on a subject, I have to say that there is an undercurrent of assumption in a lot of the scientific literature that…

The Sublime Angst of the Condom Aisle

Most of you are probably too young to know this, but there was a time when, if you wanted to buy condoms, you had to go to the pharmacy counter and ask for them. A stern man or woman wearing the white, side-buttoned jacket of pharmaceutical authority would assess whether you were in fact worthy…

It Was A Pleasure To Burn – The Tattoo

I’ve always wanted a tattoo. I like the idea of marked flesh – but not casually or without thought, I know many people who see a design they like and go for it. Through the years, I’ve pondered on what, if anything, I’d consider having indelibly marked on my flesh. I’ve never wanted anything terribly…

Pretty Vaginas

This is one of those rant posts, prompted by this: I wish I had a pretty vagina. — Girrl Genius (@GirrlGenius) April 24, 2013 One assumes, therefore, that this woman thinks she has an ugly vagina.  What, you might very well ask, constitutes a ‘pretty’ or an ‘ugly’ vagina? Although I often say I don’t…