About the Writer

More than anything else, I want to tell you these stories. I want to rub these words against you, smear you with the pollen of possibility, infect you with nostalgia for places you’ve never been, experiences you’ve never had or have forgotten. That is what books have done for me since I was old enough to read. They made me a carrier of a strange sickness and now I have to pass it on.

Words are worlds. They carry a different message to each of us. And so the story I wrote is not the one you read. In reading it, the story becomes yours. Draped in all the things you brought with you when you stepped onto the page and began to read.

I write stories about people and their desires, and the strange ways in which those desires twist them into new beings.

Born in Canada, educated in Madrid and London, I have spent the last 15 years of my life in a small Southeast Asian country. I write, teach, study and grows orchids in a house with an enormous mango tree and a psychotic cat named Seven. I hold an MA in Writing and am currently pursuing a doctorate in Creative Writing.

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Some of you will have cleverly noticed that Remittance Girl is not the name I was born with. I decided to use a pseudonym because it is in keeping with the tradition of the Victorian pornographers. I could have chosen a name that sounded like a name, but where would be the fun it that? This is my identity for my writing and for my online persona. I’ve had it for many years now.

The name itself is a reference to a “remittance man”. Wikipedia describes a remittance man thus:

Remittance Man
In the 19th century, the English usage of the word usually referred to money sent from England – the opposite direction to today’s usual usage of the term. A remittance man was an exile living on money sent from home. Within Victorian British culture, this often meant the black sheep of an upper or middle class family who was sent away (from the UK to the Empire), and paid to stay away. These men were generally of dissolute or drunken character, and may have been sent overseas after one or more disgraces at home.

If you wish to contact me, please email me at remittancegirl@gmail.com. However, please do not contact me for the purpose of requesting marketing, advertising or promotional cooperation. This blog’s purpose is not commercial. Requests of that kind will NOT be responded to politely, as I will know that you read this paragraph to get my email address.

  27 comments for “About the Writer

  1. D. Grover
    August 22, 2010 at 10:17 am

    I love your short story “Beautiful Loser”. It is incredible and beautifully written, please continue writing about Sebastian, Jean, and Shira.

  2. Tony
    February 18, 2011 at 11:20 pm

    Your work is truly beautiful….for there is nothing more beautiful than a becoming of true self through fine creative expression. Your writing makes my heart pump harder. You tell the deep truths, exquisitely. Admiration – Tony.

  3. PinkStripesBeck
    March 7, 2011 at 7:57 am

    I stumbled over your blog and think I have found my newest addiction; the way you write is beautiful, sensual, amazingly empowering and makes me want more… Thank you for sharing your words with the world, it would be such a waste to simply write and not share…

    I look forward to reading more soon. – Your Faithful Reader Beck

  4. May 3, 2011 at 11:50 am

    I’m really glad I came across your site. I’m writing erotic romance … and developing as a writer. You have a terrific site and it makes me think I have so far to go. But one step at a time. I like the richness in writing erotica which I think is going to come out in my third story. I don’t want to just churn out stories too quickly but I like seeing the characters develop.

    • May 3, 2011 at 12:29 pm

      Thank you, DD. Well, I wish you luck in your writing endeavor.

  5. July 7, 2011 at 9:23 pm

    I’ve been online more than ten years. Seen all kinds of sites begin, some end and some just keep on going. Those who stick around for the long haul are the ones that give themselves some space. You need space to grow, to evolve and that requires taking a break. Don’t feel bad about stepping away. When you come back it should be because you couldn’t keep away and have a ton of new ideas, maybe a whole reformat or revamp for the site too. You can’t keep a big project like this going without recharging your batteries.

  6. blue fairy
    July 10, 2011 at 10:43 pm

    I discovered your site today, after reading about it in Asialife, by which you will guess my location.
    I’ve only read a fraction of your work in the last hour, and I find your writing style compellingly beautiful. It shall surely become one of my daily visits online.. but after living here in D2 for 10yrs, I’m both surprised I didn’t hear of your work before, and awed by the fascinating melange of local culture and erotica. What a shame I find you a few days after you have bowed off stage – enjoy your break, the empty summer expat haunts, and the lychee season.

  7. November 16, 2011 at 12:25 am

    Dear RG —

    I don’t know if you’ll remember; we were in extensive touch six or so years ago, about the time I started my blog devifemme.livejournal.com Am I right in recalling you had a blog then, as well?

    I chanced to see a reference to you, and I came here, happily rediscovering the quality and vigor of your erotic writing. I read a couple of delicious stories and just read your piece on the difference between erotica and “stroke fiction.” I’m in love with the same girl, still with the hassles/hangups from years ago. (Surprised? I am, too, I guess.) Ergo I’m plenty meedful of both genres — though I’d enjoy both were I long-term bedding
    a nymphomaniac, I think. (Okay, Fate: try it on me.)

    Kisses, Justine

  8. Cyndi Jo
    February 7, 2012 at 7:58 am

    Hello RG, I have missed reading your writing and was happy to stumble here once again! Once a member of ERWA, I have kept the monthly reminders of new editions. You are, as always, a very talented writer. I am delighted to see you are still enjoying the focus of your life and have developed it into such strong rich colors. Hugs and bright blessings to you!

  9. September 20, 2012 at 10:32 pm

    Wow! Just wow!

  10. Lyllie Charrlote
    December 5, 2012 at 1:20 am

    I saw your text on Hazel Dooney Lo-Res Nudes, very nice and prettyiteresting, I do like the set of photos and your text is rich.
    I am not that much on the “voyeur” idea directive but in that way it does rings many bell, more intimate and we do not have to close our eyes.
    best wishes, Lyllie

  11. Dan
    June 25, 2013 at 8:27 am

    Hi Remittance Girl,
    My parter suggested I read ‘The Dinner Party’ which got us both very worked up… Apparently she’s been a naughty girl and hasn’t commented, so I’m doing it for her.

    We’re both looking forward to the next instalment.

    Thanks for sharing!

  12. Shoshana
    October 4, 2013 at 4:05 am

    Glad to have found a kindred spirit.

  13. Bluemum
    October 5, 2014 at 3:11 pm

    Your stories take me to a long forgotten past. Desire and longing for what has been before. Thank you so much for the memories.

    • October 6, 2014 at 6:35 pm

      Thank you so much for reading and taking the time to say you enjoyed them!

  14. Roger Payne
    November 19, 2015 at 5:53 pm


    No… Really…

    Wow! I’ve only read three pieces so far and I am transfixed. I have been searching for erotic writing that goes above and beyond the tiresome norm (as I’m attempting the same myself) and with you, it’s way more than I could have imagined. Will write again when I have absorbed, consumed, devoured more, so I can comment with familiarity, more informed of your work. I can’t believe some folks are suggesting this is not ” proper” erotica , or whatever. To hell with your detractors, this is rich, lush, substantial word building, picture making, sensory satisfying stuff!

  15. Andrew
    December 12, 2015 at 7:13 am

    You are a truly amazing writer. Thank you, thank you for the pleasure you have given me and many others.

  16. Teddy Omondi Nyakinya
    May 7, 2016 at 3:49 pm

    A most natural set of skill.It’s a wonder all of this is actually non commercial.

  17. Gerald Cooper
    May 20, 2016 at 1:06 am

    I discovered your site purely by chance. I have read many of your stories and have enjoyed the content. It occurs to me that you are quite limited in your genres, may I suggest wife swapping, cheating wives and call girls as future subjects? It may be that you have already explored these topics (sorry then) so will you give me the links so I may enjoy these stories.
    Keep up the good work

  18. Gyanisgood
    June 14, 2016 at 5:59 pm

    It’s been over 48 hours of terrible news, finger pointing, tantrums and just simply noisy, bad behavior all around me. I visited you and your words as a respite from the cacophony around me. It is an oasis of calm, beauty and words I’m just so thirsty for.

    • June 18, 2016 at 4:38 pm

      Wow. What a truly lovely thing to say. And I’m so glad you found that respite here. Hugs.

  19. Roger Burnett
    July 9, 2018 at 7:07 am

    I have just discovered your writing. In the dreary norm of erotica it comes as a welcome breath of fresh air. Thank you, I will keep revisiting.

    As a painter and sculptor of the nude, my work suggests rather than defines. Thus, the viewer is invited to enter into the creative process – just as your readers are able to do.

    And like you I live in an adopted land. In my case, a small island in the Caribbean.

    You can find out more at: sculpturestudiodominica.blogspot.com

  20. Aimee
    August 19, 2018 at 10:01 pm

    Finally. I found you. Thank you.

  21. WH
    February 28, 2019 at 2:12 pm

    Hello RG,

    No need whatsoever to ever abandon your ” WIWIWYG “, well on the contrary, all the more reason to honestly continue to write on how the erotic mindset as a driver daily illuminates desires and testifies of the human condition to which we all have to abide.

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