WIWIWYG (What I Write Is What You Get)

AHSM46NAbout five times a year, I receive either comments or emails asking me why I don’t write erotic fiction on a slew of topics: “why don’t you write about wife-swapping, cougars, cock and ball torture, shoe fetishism, choking, violet wands, water-sports…?”

While I realize that most of the world has come to view erotic fiction writing (indeed most forms of genre writing) as a consumable product, like ice cream or vodka coolers, it is entirely natural to then be frustrated when one is not offered a standardized array of ‘flavors’ to choose from. And, indeed, if you do a quick google search, you will find sites that offer literally thousands of stories, classified by kink or sexual act, or orientation. I completely understand why you might want to have that same ‘demand and supply’ consumer-relationship with my writing.

But that is not the relationship I am interested in having with you.

In the same way that it is entirely possible for you to screw the top on your shampoo nice and tight and use the bottle as a dildo, it is important to note in the end, that it’s not manufactured as a dildo, nor did it set out to be a dildo; it’s a bottle of shampoo. And while it might work well for you as a dildo, if the bottle leaks and you end up with a vagina full of detergent, you really can’t complain to Head and Shoulders.

I want to be entirely clear about this: I write erotic fiction, not pornography.  I am not a textual sex-worker. I don’t write stories with a view to sexually servicing you. I do not set out to help you gratify your immediate sexual desires. I do not write with the aim of facilitating your masturbatory practices. Some of my stories may work that way for you, but that is not what they were created to do so, much like the shampoo bottle, if it isn’t quite the perfect dildo shape, you’re shit out of luck.

I write about what interests me erotically. I choose themes that I feel will most efficiently facilitate an examination the greater human condition through an erotic lens. I’m deeply uninterested in many of the pornographized categories of acts or memes which serve to draw a line between the erotic and the everyday world. Categories are useful for finding things quickly, but they also serve to set things apart. I’m interested in just the opposite – in looking at places where those boundaries leak and fail, where human eroticism bleeds into the non-sexual parts of our personas, our lives and our society.

If I have any specific aim as regards my readers, it is to write things that encourage my readers to think about how their erotic desires constitute and shape and twist the very complex individuals they are.It would be very surprising  if all the readers who arrive at this site (or even a majority of them) were always in complete agreement with me as to the themes that might best accomplish this goal. It’s always going to be a hit and miss thing.

I do not ask you for money to read my work on this site. In all the time I have had this site (over a decade now) I have never monetized it in any way: no google ads, no banner advertising, no links to commercial sites. While I could have easily coded it in such a way as to at least cover my server costs, I have consciously chosen to keep the site rigorously non-commercial in order to ensure that our relationship can never be conceived of as commoditized or transactional. You are free to read and leave. You are also free to read and discuss your reactions in the comments area. You are free to express your disgust, your disappointment, your frustration at feeling you’ve wasted your time.

What you are not free to do is mistake my writing for a dildo and then complain that it’s not the right shape.

  32 comments for “WIWIWYG (What I Write Is What You Get)

  1. May 20, 2016 at 7:01 pm

    So you don’t want to have sex with me?

    • May 20, 2016 at 7:07 pm

      No, but don’t let that hurt your feelings. I don’t want to have sex with most people.

  2. Isla
    May 21, 2016 at 5:32 am

    I understand what you are conveying in this post but I can honestly say I have never wanted you to write for a certain niche/fetish, I’ve always appreciated your honesty as a writer and just wanted to read what you have to say. It’s always interesting and creative to me. I like that.

    Originality is sexy.

    • May 21, 2016 at 3:28 pm

      Hey there, Isla. Yes, I know this and, I know that the majority of regular readers don’t feel that way. If they did, they’d eventually stop coming here. But it was just that time of year, to write a post, clarifying what the site is for.

      • Isla
        May 21, 2016 at 5:21 pm

        Fair enough 🙂

  3. May 21, 2016 at 9:49 am

    Bravo!

    Amazing woman… still smiling big over that last line! You are always refreshing. 😉

    ~ Vista

  4. Jane Anne
    May 21, 2016 at 10:31 pm

    Your eyes, ears, voice are a literate treasure trove. You need no virtual argument. Literature and the literary spirit speak with nuance, imagination, curiosity, experience. You raise the level for writers with less insight or willingness to explore the riches of our sensual lives. Bravo. And thanks.

    • May 22, 2016 at 3:28 am

      You are just too damn flattering.. I don’t know what to say.

      • Jane Anne
        May 22, 2016 at 7:22 pm

        No need. The line between talent and the pedestrian is simply too clear. What sets you further apart is that voice, talent and insight cohabit. It is such an important aspect of all our lives. Sensuality in all its wisdom and folly deserves a proper storyteller. You do that for your readers. Gratitude and good humor are deserved rewards!

        • May 24, 2016 at 3:12 pm

          You are very kind to say so. I know I often fall short, but I do keep trying.

          • Lee
            February 11, 2017 at 12:15 am

            If you fail any better, we’ll have to start worshipping brilliance. x

      • Jane Anne
        October 2, 2016 at 7:56 pm

        A relationship “not commoditized or transactional” is just that. It lasts over time because it resonates for seekers of that buggery notion of “meaning” in life. The pearl in one of so many empty oysters.

  5. May 21, 2016 at 11:30 pm

    Bravissima! Bless you for saying this.
    This extends to all facets of writing, not just the divide between sensual and pornographic, especially in a genre-driven world, a world in which the customer is *always* right, and because of that the customer, nee reader, expects a customized commodity. One that fulfills a fantasy, is true to a template, and brooks no deviation from normative expectations.

  6. May 21, 2016 at 11:53 pm

    So much this!! For myself, I don’t write for readers, I write for myself. If someone like it, fantastic. If they hate it…that is their choice, it doesn’t change how I see the piece. Readers come into the author’s world, not vice versa.

    • May 22, 2016 at 3:27 am

      While I think it is a little bit less clear-cut, I do think you are fundamentally right. The author ‘proposes’ the game – determines which game is going to be played. Of course, the reader can play along, or not. And different readers play in different ways. But if I say ‘this is a baseball game’ and a reader wants to believe it’s soccer… then no one is having a good experience.

  7. Lee
    May 22, 2016 at 3:16 pm

    Ah, the illicit provocation that’s always a suprise. It’s beautiful, reflecting you, and don’t you change for any of us, Muse.

  8. TFP
    May 22, 2016 at 8:33 pm

    As you mentioned, your regular readers know what to expect, usually…You take us well beyond the shampoo bottle, getting to the grime and dirt of the human consciousness. The things we often want washed away, the struggles within us torment us but we need that inner conflict don’t we? I will comment on one thing that I do not like about your work in general, as a ready it often leaves me frustrated, I always want so much more from your delicious pen!

    • May 24, 2016 at 3:09 pm

      And I always want more of your regard. 😀

      • TFP
        May 25, 2016 at 6:45 pm

        Even with the bad grammar and lack of proof reading?

  9. Dae
    June 5, 2016 at 8:09 pm

    Good on you for not having the urge to comply. It’s an act of the indolent, someone who by no effort of their own wants something in great supply that meets their need. It’s the bastard child of the consumerism and the result of the ‘customer is always right’ mentality.

    That’s the nicest way I can put it. The mean way, is that the email was most likely written by a male, who lost in their own ego assumes you should comply because demand expects it.

    Fuck him. Fuck those like him. Write whatever the fuck you want and make no apologies for it. That he had the nerve to screw up the courage and crawl out from under his rock to send you that email, suggests a great societal problem at hand.

    • June 6, 2016 at 10:21 pm

      I don’t think it took him any courage at all. I think he reflects the majority of consumers of erotic fiction and what they have come to expect of ‘fiction products’ – he’s asking why I don’t offer the flavour he wants. When the relationship between a reader and a writer becomes one of pure transactionality, it’s hardly surprising, is it?

  10. Happymanes
    August 14, 2016 at 4:40 pm

    At the very least, at least for me, you always give a view in which it is clear also the reader can not be in doubt as to your view or the point you wish to make. All to often today people are quick to put down those with a differing view rather than to respect that view or for those that wish and are able to, articulate in a no derogatory way an alternative view point.

    I for one will continue to read the stories you publish however what has changed is I will now read with interest your posts on other subjects for no other reason to read a well write, articulate pice which I can at least finish knowing the writers view point.

  11. Shauna B
    September 1, 2016 at 8:45 am

    From one writer to another, Touché. The most erotic writing I have read in a long time. WIWIWYG

  12. CuriousGentleman
    September 6, 2016 at 12:55 am

    I have been reading your work for all of the ten years,

    I like what you write.

    I love that it is what you like.

    I feel I know you.

    Would you like to meet up for a coffee, now that you are in the UK,

    it could be the start of another story?

    The Curious Gentleman

    • September 16, 2016 at 8:28 pm

      Thank you for the invite. Unfortunately, I’m about to leave again, very shortly! 🙁

  13. Anonymous reader
    September 11, 2016 at 11:02 pm

    This comment may be a little late but I just wanna say that I totally agree and support you on your approach to writing whatever you want 🙂 keep awesome!

  14. Old Man
    September 28, 2016 at 5:52 pm

    Just a general comment from me, just read several of your stories and must say you have wonderful insight into the human mind and a great insight into the male psyche, great work, and thank you for sharing!

  15. steve
    October 24, 2016 at 8:51 am

    My comments often fail to send, server error 🙁

  16. Andrew
    February 10, 2017 at 5:26 pm

    Well said- I felt slightly irritated by the original comment and your above post is eloquent, point made carefully but strongly.

    Having only recently found your site, I return to sample more stories, rationing them to prolong the pleasure

    I’ve been writing erotica for five years or so, never published, or shared with anyone, just for my own pleasure. One day…somewhere they will appear.

    Your writing is so intelligent and thought provoking, the backstories rendering them far higher than the McD happy meals served elsewhere.

    x Andrew

    • February 11, 2017 at 11:14 am

      I do hope you’ll share your stories with readers. You know… the writing is never really finished until you do. 😛

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