Unsafe Sex and the Representation of Ideals
We’ve been having a very vibrant conversation on twitter about whether or not a writer of erotic fiction has an obligation to write their sex scenes as ‘safe’, i.e. with the participants wearing condoms. In a way, this is somewhat related to an earlier post I had on the pressure to write sex-positive erotica, to […]
Porn, Consent and the Singular Integrity of the Sexual Experience
There is a very interesting article in the Atlantic, “The Ethics of Extreme Porn: Is Some Sex Wrong Even For Consenting Adults“. Being the Atlantic, although thorough, it also relates some very dogmatic and (to me) quite offensive responses. But the author has written a fairly well-reasoned piece. It is all in response to this […]
Abyssal Depths – The Art of the Mindfuck
The topic of the mindfuck has been on my mind of late. I’ve had ongoing discussions with @DarkGracie on the subject, and a lovely face-to-face conversation about it with two people from different ends of the power spectrum: MisterGryphon and Mollena. I’d like to state up front that what follows is a very personal understanding […]
The Sublime Angst of the Condom Aisle
Most of you are probably too young to know this, but there was a time when, if you wanted to buy condoms, you had to go to the pharmacy counter and ask for them. A stern man or woman wearing the white, side-buttoned jacket of pharmaceutical authority would assess whether you were in fact worthy […]
Guilty
Drag yourself between my legs in a state of moral undress. With the queasiness of reprehensible behaviour clawing up the rungs of your spine and the effervescence of broken rules fizzing in your blood. I’m not interested in snow white seed.
It Was A Pleasure To Burn – The Tattoo
I’ve always wanted a tattoo. I like the idea of marked flesh – but not casually or without thought, I know many people who see a design they like and go for it. Through the years, I’ve pondered on what, if anything, I’d consider having indelibly marked on my flesh. I’ve never wanted anything terribly […]
Why Do We Need a “Best Male Erotica” Anthology
Yesterday, Burning Book Press sent out a call for submissions for a ‘Best Male Erotica Anthology 2013‘ to be edited by Raziel Moore and Will Crimson. Historically, pornographic (sexually explicit) writing has been almost the exclusive preserve of men, although ironically the etymology of pornography is Greek and means ‘the writing of prostitutes’. With some […]
Exhale (Exile)
I have squirmed, wriggled, pushed and begged without success; the world simply won’t welcome me into the order of things. Even as a child, skinny and unkempt, I hovered at the edge of the flickering circle of humanity like a stray dog, patiently vigilant for the morsel carelessly dropped from the table. Eavesdropping on the […]
Separate States
There are really two parallel planes of existence; people who were born beautiful inhabit one, the other is for the rest of us. There is, of course, crossover, in the form of interaction at commercial establishments and the longing looks of the ugly as they jump dimensions and settle on impossible objects of desire. Sometimes, […]
Fleshless
There is something less than you: something, someone smaller but sweet valuable and worthy momentary satiations of sundry hungers the pleasure of lips that meet of parts that fit of skin that sings. Why isn’t that enough? As the unattainable object of my desire you are infinitely safer than a good hard fuck, and the […]