… Any Club that would Accept Me as a Member

“I Don’t Want to Belong to Any Club That Will Accept Me as a Member” Groucho Marx In a comment on I, Sadist’s post “Sorry, it’s already been decided for you” Shelby left a link to her to her post What’s Your Flavor? It’s worth a read. I also caught an interesting exchange between two […]

Sorry, it’s already been decided for you

I’m someone who doesn’t get bent about the sexual activities of others assuming it involves consenting adults.  However, whenever, whatever works for me as long as it doesn’t impact my own little portion of the world.  It’s very egocentric. At one time, I was very active in ‘the scene’ of BDSM clubs, activities, play parties, […]

Baby, You’re a Star

This morning when I woke up, I found this email – I’m subscribed to Tutivillus’ World of Hurt newsletter –  in my inbox: My DNA along the timeline of this species is fairly long and varied. I am a self-declared bastard-child and outcast of the “Swingers”. I’ve been the reviled “single-male”, “bisexual male” and the […]

Interview and Giggles

I recently was interviewed by Alex over at Shiterotica. We had a very nice chat about writing, fisting, poor grammar, why I hate Stephanie Meyer  and death metal bands.  I wish I could say it was terribly insightful, but mostly it was just silliness. However, you do need to check out the Shiterotica blog. Alex […]

Writing Erotica on Empty

I often compare erotica to other genres. But there is one way in which I am pretty sure it differs quite dramatically. Most erotica writers I talk to agree – you have to feel sexually charged to write really good sex scenes. That doesn’t mean you have to be so horny you type with one […]

Happily Ever After For Now

There were so many excellent and well-reasoned responses to my EAACON post I was sitting there itching to see the comments come in. There were also a few comments that really showed that either I had not expressed myself very well, or the readers had mistaken my meaning. My post was not an attack on […]

Each Man Kills The Thing He Loves

When Garce invited me to write on this topic, I jumped on it without thought: write about an erotic fantasy you love but would / could never do. I thought that nothing could be easier because I don’t do much of anything these days. But when I really sat down to consider it, it became […]

London – Erotic Meet at The Green Carnation

I was fortunate enough to be invited by @Mollysdailykiss @DomSigns and @AnniePlayer to Erotic Meet: A Meeting of Minds for Erotic Creatives, which hosts monthly get togethers at the fabulous Green Carnation on Greek Street in the heart of Soho. The Green Carnation is something of an interpretive homage to the life and work of […]

Final Reflections on #EAACON and the future of the genre

I have to applaud the organizers of the inaugural EAA Conference for not only their courage, their incredibly hard work, and the great job they did on envisioning what the structure and format of a conference for erotic writers would look like.  Today I did their survey for the conference attendees and it prompted some […]

Okay… OKAY. Toy Review.

I get a lot of mail from toy companies. Offers to send me some to review. Offers to pay me to put up a banner.  Finally, after I rebuffed one of them, the lady emailed me back and rudely accused me of being anti-toy. This could have been because of my post a while ago […]