Someday, Somehow

I keep hoping for amnesia. Waking in a state of sublime dyslexia. The ability to spell your name miraculously gone. I anticipate opportunities for grand betrayal. A house key left on the bedside table of a stranger. I want to forget how to find my way back to you. Purge the need to skin my […]

The Things We Leave Behind

Move on, says the bystander and so I do being essentially accommodating at heart. I know about starting anew having done it so many times there’s no beginning to the ending only a continuum of arrivals and departures. I escape with grace long before you have time to regret the whole incident or call in […]

Writing Research Resources

I admire writers who get an idea for a story and just go for it, doing their research to get the details right later, but I can’t do it. I find I need to fully immerse myself in the information before I feel ‘ready’ to write. Often when I find good maps, I print them […]

Lime, Lemongrass and Gingerade

Having hit a total dry-spell in the erotic fiction department, I thought I’d offer you a recipe for a nice summer drink.  Yeah, pathetic I know, but it’s delicious. You’ll thank me. 3 ripe limes 3 inches of fresh ginger three sticks of lemongrass Sugar syrup or honey to taste Cut the skinny tops off […]

Words like Sand & Turbulent Stories: Readers’ Experience of Shifting Narrative

Electronic text, especially text on the web in HTML form, has fundamentally changed our understanding of the ‘printed word’. On the web, text can change constantly and readers do not have the same surety that, like the words they read yesterday in a book, they will be the same words today. Of course, the meaning […]

Nevermore

  A world and an age ago a better father who loved me sat beside my bed and read: ‘Do not go gentle into that good night.” You said: this is just one time, not the only time or the last. But you’re wrong. My courage, it seems, has an expiration date, as does my […]

The Middle Way

I just finished reading “The “Pornification” of Sacred Sexuality” by Modern Love Muse. This combined with a comment recently left on my post on Cheating got me thinking about modern representations of sex. We’re an odd species. Either we’re commodifying sex to the point where it’s just another thing we eat and shit out – […]

Cheating

So, I’ve been having these waves of conversations about ‘cheating’. He cheated on her. She cheated on him. Someone has a not so open, open relationship, and the ones who’ve professed monogamy for life are all in hell for one reason or another. I don’t often give advice, but I’m going to do it. There […]

Rihanna’s S&M and the Mainstreamification of Kink

I’m torn about this sort of thing. Certainly I am pleased on any rare occasion when kink is represented in mainstream media as something other than negative. On the other hand – if ‘whips and chains’ really did excite Rihanna, this is not the video she would have made.  This pisses me off unaccountably in […]