Persona: Dreamgirls, Mister Rights & the Disappointment of the Real

Anyone who hasn’t read Big Ed’s post, “On hunger for connection and the ‘outing’ of Alexa” should go and read it, because it’s a very honest piece on the desire for connection and why, in virtual spaces, we are so often disappointed. In his post, he says: “men (or at least many men) crave authentic […]

Rough Justice & the Internet

First, I want to warn readers and commenters on my last Alexa post that I have gone through my post and the comments left and redacted the name of the person who has been accused of pretending to be Alexa. If it offends you that I have redacted his name on your comment and you […]

3-Minute Thesis Competition

For those of you interested in following along with my PhD adventure, I decided to participate in a seminar that poses a 3-Minute PhD Thesis challenge. Basically, it’s a sort of ‘sell your idea’ in 3 minutes thing. This is what I have come up with. Tweeted Wednesday, October 27, 2010 in 140 char chunks: […]

Sane Past the Veil

You, my friend, are sane past the veil. Easy to be sane before you know the depths to which humanity can plummet. Easy to be sane before the blinding light of banality sears the eyes shut. Easy to be sane before you’ve met the place where pain or confusion makes death seem a viable alternative. […]

The Execution of a Virtual Call Girl

I’ve been giving a lot of thought to the ‘outing’ of the net and twitter persona known as Alexa di Carlo. For those of you who don’t follow twitter, and have never heard of the Real Princess Diaries, Alexa was a person claiming to be a high-class callgirl. She tweeted and blogged about being one, […]

Poem for an Unmet Woman

I have painted the lines of your body across the sky. Mixed stains on mental palettes to match the unnamed tone of the skin behind your knee. Imagined the crease at the corner of your mouth contorted by pleasure, then laughter, then pain. I’ve composed the whirwind of your orgasms, ethereal breath, the sound of […]

Mining Emotions

I’ve been watching the coverage of the Chilean miners being rescued and it’s made me ponder something. I don’t think I’m the only person who has felt torn while watching this. I’m very glad to know they are being rescued. I’m glad that in 2010, 33 men’s lives matter enough to bring together the funding, […]

So You Want to Write Erotica

I’ve received a lot of emails asking me about becoming an erotica writer and so I decided to post a specific email and show my response, mostly so I can just refer people to this page instead of repeating myself. The email below is paraphrased Hello, I’m an aspiring erotica writer. I’d like to know […]

Cafes & Graveyards

Recently, I’ve been spending a lot of time watching the living and the dead. London is an excellent place to observe either, or both. Like all very old cities, it’s more graveyard than metropolitan centre, since more people have died and been buried here than are currently living in the place. In graveyards and on […]

But no more

It is one of nature’s great cruelties that the body decays long before desire slides into somnolence and need’s nagging chatter falls quiet. For years, I consoled myself with kind white lies like cool, plumped pillows for the delicately dispositioned and the terminally terminal. The flesh has failed under the drag of time and so […]