The Cypher Dom: Christian Grey and the Failure of Visual Media

I guess you have to thank a bad book and a mediocre film if it engenders thought on the subject of the textual and visual portrayal of eroticism. The success of Fifty Shades of Grey has certainly brought a debate about BDSM, stalkerish males, passive women and the compromise of bad sex for love into […]

Fifty Shades of Grey: A Film Review

Fifty Shades of Grey is the first mainstream film based on an ‘erotic novel’ in quite a while; the last one I can recall was Secretary, loosely based on a short story with the same title by Mary Gaitskill, but I could be wrong. There have been numerous recent art-house films considered to be erotic, […]

Recipe: Pad Thai

Here’s a pdf guide to making Pad Thai with Shrimp. http://remittancegirl.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/Pad-Thai.pdf Right-click to save.  

I Am Charlie, Uncomfortably: The Price of Free Discourse

“To hold a pen is to be at war.”  Voltaire In the wake of the murder of 12 people at the Charlie Hebdo Magazine offices, there has been shock, mourning and much passionate debate. It is sad that it takes the assassination of a group of French satirical cartoonists to prompt a serious discussion of […]

Spanking and Female Ejaculation: Everything Good Is Bad Again

This week the new Audiovisual Media Services Regulations 2014 aimed at censoring On Demand Video in the UK were ratified. I can’t say I watch a lot of porn of any kind, and my personal opinions of the remediated acts listed in the regulations range from a shrug to a shudder. There are lots of […]

Ask Better Questions

Kristina Lloyd, whose novel Undone has just been published (and is phenomenally well-written – buy it), has been doing the blog tour thing. Today, Anna Sky hosted an interesting post by Kristina: “Do Women Prefer Erotica?” Whether you’re a reader or a writer of erotica, it’s worth your while to read it. At the end, […]

A Good Man is Dead.

A good man is dead. And it feels like there should be some mechanism by which I can scream that at the sky loud enough to tear the universe apart. A good man is dead and everything should stop now. No jokes should be told, no flowers should bloom, no wine drunk except in the […]

An Open Letter to Henry Rollins, and Others: Or Fuck Henry Rollins

This blog post in in response to Henry Rollins’ article Fuck Suicide, which appeared in LA Weekly on Aug. 21, 2014 It will give you an indication as to my age when I tell you that Henry Rollins was a hero of mine. But no more. His article is arrogant, self-important, and ignorant. And I’m […]

A Writer’s Seduction

This is an erotic story about stories, about writing, about writers and readers. If you came to this page believing yourself safe or immune to my seduction, perhaps it is because you need to. Perhaps you are a lover who wants to be taken and ravished. Perhaps you hope to come away believing yourself the […]