#LadyPornDay and The Male Gaze
I went on a hunt today for porn for heterosexual women. And I have to tell you, I was pretty disappointed by what I found. I’m not sure whether I’m just a very odd woman, or there is a conspiracy out there bent on denying me what I want, but either way, it’s a desert […]
Here Lies…
I just finished Gibson’s Zero History. One of the locations in the novel is a fictional private hotel called Cabinet with an address at Portman Square in London. Before we found a house in Montague Square, my parents and I lived in a flat at 15 Portman Square – it had an old rickety cage […]
The End Product of Globalization
I’m in London with not a lot of alone time on my hands, but I’m definitely aiming to produce another chunk of Enamorata. In the meantime, delving into the video meme of Lady Gaga parodies, I found this. Some of it is pretty disturbing to look at if you haven’t spent much time in Southeast […]
Word of the Day: Countertransference
From time to time, I use this blog to explore the non-erotic parts of my life. This is one of them. So, a caution: this piece deals with the very upsetting subject of incest. It is not meant in any way to be read as a piece of erotica. Rather, it is an examination of […]
Word Abuse: Rape
Just the other day, a friend of mine with a daughter of school age told me about a disturbing incident in which a little boy of the same age, 12, threatened her daughter with ‘rape’. Being both a concerned mother and an eminently sensible woman, she wondered just how far she should pursue the incident. […]
UnKindled & Paypalless: Ethics and the Bottom Line
I’ve been thinking hard about this topic for about 24 hours. I didn’t get a lot of sleep last night. I realized that my decision is going to affect more than just me, but, to paraphrase Edmund Burke, evil triumphs when good men do nothing. I have decided to take all Amazon links to my […]
The Things that Grow in a Vacuum
I have recently had a friendship come apart. It died from neglect and I admit complicity in its demise. I get too focused on things. I don’t water the flowers as much as I should. I tend to assume that, once I have had a meeting of minds with someone and a level of affection […]
I Sing to the Body Electric – Persona in Motion
It is 7:30 am. I wake up, make my way downstairs and lean sleepily against the counter as I wait for my coffee. Then, sitting down to my laptop, I open it. Sweetly, accommodatingly, it connects to the web; I open up Twitter and say my good mornings. I am become Remittance Girl. Of course, […]
I have no advice to give
Every so often, I get a spate of DMs and emails asking for my opinion or advice on matters sexual. This post is mostly so I don’t have to keep repeating myself. It feels rotten to just turn people away, but I do. I’m just a writer. I just write about people and sex. That […]
Revisiting Umberto Eco’s ‘The Future of the Book’
Sixteen years after it was presented at a symposium, Umberto Eco’s paper ‘The Future of the Book’ would seem to be ridiculously out of date and yet, surprisingly, it challenged assumptions and brought up questions that are just as relevant – sometimes more – today as they were then. The text of this paper is […]