A Piss Poor Attempt at an Explanation

I began to attempt to answer a question in a comment posted on my #indelible flash piece yesterday. I realized that it was too long to answer in a comment box and that I’d have a difficult time answering it coherently anyway. So, to begin with, here’s the question: RG, Cutting & bleeding seem strange […]

… Any Club that would Accept Me as a Member

“I Don’t Want to Belong to Any Club That Will Accept Me as a Member” Groucho Marx In a comment on I, Sadist’s post “Sorry, it’s already been decided for you” Shelby left a link to her to her post What’s Your Flavor? It’s worth a read. I also caught an interesting exchange between two […]

Sorry, it’s already been decided for you

I’m someone who doesn’t get bent about the sexual activities of others assuming it involves consenting adults.  However, whenever, whatever works for me as long as it doesn’t impact my own little portion of the world.  It’s very egocentric. At one time, I was very active in ‘the scene’ of BDSM clubs, activities, play parties, […]

Baby, You’re a Star

This morning when I woke up, I found this email – I’m subscribed to Tutivillus’ World of Hurt newsletter –  in my inbox: My DNA along the timeline of this species is fairly long and varied. I am a self-declared bastard-child and outcast of the “Swingers”. I’ve been the reviled “single-male”, “bisexual male” and the […]

Writing Erotica on Empty

I often compare erotica to other genres. But there is one way in which I am pretty sure it differs quite dramatically. Most erotica writers I talk to agree – you have to feel sexually charged to write really good sex scenes. That doesn’t mean you have to be so horny you type with one […]

Happily Ever After For Now

There were so many excellent and well-reasoned responses to my EAACON post I was sitting there itching to see the comments come in. There were also a few comments that really showed that either I had not expressed myself very well, or the readers had mistaken my meaning. My post was not an attack on […]

Each Man Kills The Thing He Loves

When Garce invited me to write on this topic, I jumped on it without thought: write about an erotic fantasy you love but would / could never do. I thought that nothing could be easier because I don’t do much of anything these days. But when I really sat down to consider it, it became […]

Okay… OKAY. Toy Review.

I get a lot of mail from toy companies. Offers to send me some to review. Offers to pay me to put up a banner.  Finally, after I rebuffed one of them, the lady emailed me back and rudely accused me of being anti-toy. This could have been because of my post a while ago […]

Anything but that!

I recently had a twitter showdown with a fellow author who asked writers who write age-play and incest-play fantasy to stop following her. It’s not that I write much of that sort of thing myself, although I have. You can read it here. It’s that I am frankly disgusted by a writer who would seek […]

Words like Sand & Turbulent Stories: Readers’ Experience of Shifting Narrative

Electronic text, especially text on the web in HTML form, has fundamentally changed our understanding of the ‘printed word’. On the web, text can change constantly and readers do not have the same surety that, like the words they read yesterday in a book, they will be the same words today. Of course, the meaning […]