Every so often, I get a spate of DMs and emails asking for my opinion or advice on matters sexual. This post is mostly so I don’t have to keep repeating myself.
It feels rotten to just turn people away, but I do. I’m just a writer. I just write about people and sex. That doesn’t mean I’m wiser about it than anyone else. In fact, less so, I’m sure.
My stories are fictions. They aren’t meant to be lifestyle guides. Often they don’t even represent my own proclivities. What I know for sure is that I’m probably the very last person you should be getting advice from about sex.
Meanwhile, if you’ve stumbled across this post and know of good responsible sources of information, then please feel free to post them in the comments. However, I must stress that the net is full of unreliable information. Please use your judgment and your common sense.
http://dodsonandross.com/ is a wonderful place to go to for sexual advice. It’s the blog of Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross, who are wonderfully down to earth, while at the same time very serious about the questions that they receive and the topics that they address. There’s an “Ask Dr. Betty” section where you can submit your sex-related questions and concerns, and she will respond within the next couple of days with her advice.
I’d like to claim that I’m a reliable source of information. As of yet, I’ve given advice to hundreds of people who have asked for it – making sure to let them know that I’m by no means an expert – and no one has come back complaining about it.
But it’s definitely true, the internet is full of unreliable information. Even I can’t say, “I’m infallible, so trust me.” Don’t trust me by any means – getting a second or third opinion is never a bad thing.
I would say, however, that asking for advice, even from people who aren’t experts, is not a bad idea. Sometimes all we need is an objective view on a matter.
hehe. Yes, but my views aren’t objective. 😛